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September 26 2011
Narcissistic Allocation: Over-valuation (Idealization) and Devaluation
'Narcissists idealize potential new sources of narcissistic supply and later devalue and discard them. Cycles of over-valuation (idealization) followed by devaluation ... They reflect the need to be protected against the whims, needs, and choices of others, shielded from the hurt that they can inflict on the narcissist. The ultimate and only emotional need of the narcissist is to be the subject of attention and, thus, to support his volatile self-esteem and to regulate his sense of self worth. The narcissist is dependent on others for the performance of critical Ego functions. While healthier people overcome disappointment or disillusionment with relative ease – to the narcissist they are the difference between Being and Nothingness. The quality and reliability of Narcissistic Supply are, therefore, of paramount importance.'September 22 2011
The Narcissist's Addiction to Fame and Celebrity by Dr. Sam Vaknin
'As far as their fans are concerned, celebrities fulfil two emotional functions: they provide a mythical narrative (a story that the fan can follow and identify with) and they function as blank screens onto which the fans project their dreams, hopes, fears, plans, values, and desires (wish fulfilment). The slightest deviation from these prescribed roles provokes enormous rage and makes us want to punish (humiliate) the "deviant" celebrities. But why? When the human foibles, vulnerabilities, and frailties of a celebrity are revealed, the fan feels humiliated, "cheated", hopeless, and "empty". To reassert his self-worth, the fan must establish his or her moral superiority over the erring and "sinful" celebrity. The fan must "teach the celebrity a lesson" and show the celebrity "who's boss". It is a primitive defense mechanism – narcissistic grandiosity. It puts the fan on equal footing with the exposed and "naked" celebrity.'May 30 2011
The Political Consequences of Child Abuse by Alice Miller
'...the human brain at birth is not fully developed. The abilities a person's brain develops depend on experiences in the first three years of life. Studies on abandoned and severely mistreated Romanian children revealed striking lesions in certain areas of the brain and marked emotional and cognitive insufficiencies in later life. According to very recent neurobiological findings, repeated traumatization leads to an increased release of stress hormones that attack the sensitive tissue of the brain and destroy existing neurons. Other studies of mistreated children have revealed that the areas of the brain responsible for the "management" of emotions are 20 to 30 percent smaller than in normal persons. In the absence of positive factors, affection and helping witnesses, the only course open to the mistreated individual is the disavowal of personal suffering and the idealization of cruelty with all its devastating after-effects.'January 05 2011
Freedomain Radio -- #1820 Sunday Show January 2 2011 [Relativism] (MP3)
"People become relativists because they're raised by a crazed absolutist: somebody who is an absolutist but completely irrational like a fundamentalist Christian, or a Nationalist, or somebody who is culturally prejudiced in some fundamental way. They're crazy AND they're absolutist. And there's no possibility of overturning crazy absolutism [because an irrational absolutist can't rationally differentiate a true absolute from a false one], so the only room that the child can find in that kind of mental environment is to say everything is relative. You can't oppose the crazy absolutism with rational absolutism [because having denied rationality, an irrational absolutist can only resolve disputes using violence, and you're just a small child], so you just retreat into a general fog hoping to hide from the irrational dogmas raining down on you. Relativism is an emotional defence mechanism that results from the imposition of irrational absolutes like religion, culture, statism and so on."
December 31 2010
Wikipedia -- Projective identification
'Projective identification ... designates a psychological process in which a person engages in the ego defense mechanism projection in such a way that their behavior towards the object of projection invokes in that person precisely the thoughts, feelings or behaviors projected. Projective identification differs from simple projection in that projective identification is a self-fulfilling prophecy, whereby a person, believing something false about another, relates to that other person in such a way that the other person alters their behavior to make the belief true. The second person is influenced by the projection and begins to behave as though he or she is in fact actually characterized by the projected thoughts or beliefs. This is a process that generally happens outside the awareness of both parties involved, though this has been debated.' -- But it was all right, everything was all right, the struggle was finished. He had won the victory over himself. He loved Big Brother.December 30 2010
Self-Therapy: A Guide to Internal Family Systems (IFS) by Jay Early [p. 118]
'Two kinds of protection: #External Protection: Some protectors try to keep an exile from being harmed by other people, e.g. an enraged protector that wants to prevent an exile from being controlled. These protectors see an exile as being vulnerable and unable to protect itself. Consequently, they will take whatever actions they think are necessary to keep people from harming it. #Internal Protection: Some protectors try to protect you from feeling the emotion an exile carries, such as an intellectualizer that keeps you in your head to numb emotional pain. These protectors close you down or distract you to block out the pain or trauma that an exile feels. Or they may try to provide you with comfort or pleasure or self-esteem, to override the exile’s suffering. External protectors care about the exile and want the best for it, so they protect it from the world. Internal protectors think that the exile is dangerous because it might flood you with pain, so they judge it and push it away.'Freedomain Radio -- #1772 Sunday Show 24 October 2010 [Mecosystem] (MP3)
@02:08:23 -- “It’s really important to break apart that which is us and that which is inflicted upon us. We internalize what we should externalize (abusers): we internalize the dark side of the people who abused us and imagine *we* have a dark side. And then we externalize what we should internalize (projections): we project out onto the world those abusers which live internally inside our minds.” -- Quote: “The feelings that we get that are overwhelming to us are never our own feelings; they are the feelings of other people.” — Stefan Molyneux -- [IFS: An internal protector protects you from the dark pain of an exiled internalized abuser?]
Freedomain Radio -- #1799 Sunday Show 28 November 2010 [Mecosystem] (MP3)
@00:46:00 -- “We internalize all personalities around us. There is no boundary possible – ever – for the internalizing of external personalities. It is an automatic process. If you spend any significant time with somebody, there is no way to avoid internalizing their personality. This is why it is so important to be discriminating in who you spend your time with. The reason that the unconscious gets so contradictory and so split is because when we are in situations where our own intentionality is attacked, we have to repress our own preferences, and we also have to internalize and repress the intention of others that our intentions should never be expressed. This results in significant splitting within the personality.” -- Quote: “The feelings that we get that are overwhelming to us are never our own feelings; they are the feelings of other people.” — Stefan Molyneux
December 23 2010
Freedomain Radio -- #1620 Sunday Show 21 March 2010 [Sibling Abuse Part 5.1: The "Sheeple"] (MP3)
The "Sheeple" as a poison container for parental/sibling trauma: "If you come up with an ideology that is fundamentally impossible for, and opposed to, reality and human nature and the necessities of our biological development... why would you set up something like Anarcho-Communism? which not only is it impossible in the world but you can't even do it in your own life—at least you can do Anarcho-Capitalism/voluntary association and peaceful relations in your own life—but you can't do no property in your own life... So I think that is a way of doing 'I'm too good for this world,' where you set up this ideology of 'virtue' that is more about pomposity and hatred than it is about the desire to motivate others to be good. You set up this standard of 'virtue' which is impossible and distasteful and weird for people—and then what happens is, you get to be angry at them for not [reaching] your lofty 'moral' standards and so you get to vent all your disgust onto the world."
November 28 2010
Freedomain Radio -- #946 Breaking Through Humiliation... (MP3)
"Uncorking the volcano."
Freedomain Radio -- #421 Humiliation (MP3)
'The genesis and evolution of humiliation.'
September 02 2010
Dictionary of Logical Fallacies: Spurious Superficiality
'When a disputant allows himself to be sidetracked by irrelevancies, ignoring his opponent's logic and evidence. He cannot grasp the whole of the issue - or the principle underlying it - so he focuses on some small part (usually just one word) and directs his rebuttal to an attack on that tiny bit which is all he can perceive. Some Ad Hominem arguments probably have the same source: He can't see your ideas so he directs his rebuttal at your person. Or will simply start talking about something he CAN understand - the result being a jarring change-of-subject in the discussion. These responses are not consciously deliberated, but result from his inability to perceive the focal idea of the discussion. His only alternative to one of these responses would be bovine immobility unless he possessed a sufficient degree of intellectual acumen to realize his lack of comprehension, and a sufficient degree of self-esteem to admit to it.'Dictionary of Logical Fallacies: Spurious Superficiality
'When a disputant allows himself to be sidetracked by irrelevancies, ignoring his opponent's logic and evidence. He cannot grasp the whole of the issue - or the principle underlying it - so he focuses on some small part (usually just one word) and directs his rebuttal to an attack on that tiny bit which is all he can perceive. Some Ad Hominem arguments probably have the same source: He can't see your ideas so he directs his rebuttal at your person. Or will simply start talking about something he CAN understand - the result being a jarring change-of-subject in the discussion. These responses are not consciously deliberated, but result from his inability to perceive the focal idea of the discussion. His only alternative to one of these responses would be bovine immobility unless he possessed a sufficient degree of intellectual acumen to realize his lack of comprehension, and a sufficient degree of self-esteem to admit to it.'August 18 2010
Wikipedia -- Defence mechanism: Vaillant's categorization of defence mechanisms
'The purpose of the Ego Defence Mechanisms is to protect the mind/self/ego from anxiety, social sanctions or to provide a refuge from a situation with which one cannot currently cope. #Level 1: Pathological (delusional projection, denial, distortion, splitting) #Level 2: Immature (acting out, fantasy, idealization, passive aggression, projection, projective identification, somatization) #Level 3: Neurotic (displacement, dissociation, hypochondriasis, intellectualization, isolation, rationalization, reaction formation, repression, regression, undoing) #Level 4: Mature (altruism, anticipation, humour, identification, introjection, sublimation, thought suppression)'Psychology Articles -- Ambivalence: The Supernova of Psychic Evolution by Don Fenn
'We humans are uniquely fortunate that ambivalence pervades everything we experience, think, feel and intuit, or we wouldn’t have gotten as far as we have. Within the scientific realm dealing with tangible objects, we have become very accustomed and skilled at managing and using contradictory possibilities and options. In fact that’s how science has progressed. It’s the art of putting things together that previously weren’t supposed to be married, and taking apart things that were supposed to remain together. But when it comes to dealing with ambiguity in the intangibles of human life—we suddenly lose it! We stumble into ambiguity-illiteracy. We try to make reality caveman-simple, of which good and evil is the best example; in making the most important decisions of life we have only two options instead of a thousand or more. Violence is one of the principle outcomes of simple-mindedness. Ambivalence is the key skill necessary for the creative management of multilayered comprehension.'Wikipedia -- Ambivalence
'Ambivalence is a state of having simultaneous, conflicting feelings toward a person or thing. Ambivalence is experienced as psychologically unpleasant when the positive and negative aspects of a subject are both present in a person's mind at the same time. This state can lead to avoidance or procrastination, or to deliberate attempts to resolve the ambivalence. When the situation does not require a decision to be made, people experience less discomfort even when feeling ambivalent.' -- Wikipedia: Cognitive Dissonance: 'A powerful cause of dissonance is an idea in conflict with a fundamental element of the self-concept, such as "I am a good person" or "I made the right decision." The anxiety that comes with the possibility of having made a bad decision can lead to rationalization, the tendency to create additional reasons or justifications to support one's choices. Dissonance can also lead to confirmation bias, the denial of disconfirming evidence, and other ego defense mechanisms.'
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